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Though having a challenge in your relationship is part of what keeps the sparks going, in a D/s relationships it’s about the interaction and the connection individuals make.

D/s is not a competition and it’s not about conquest.

If you’re having to fight and struggle for your partner to submit to you, then it’s not surrender and it’s not D/s.

However, if you’ve purposely set up your relationship to be that way, then it’s a “roleplay” scene and those scenes can be hot; however that is roleplaying not D/s.

Live with passion,

Dr. Charley Ferrer