It’s taken me a few days…okay a little over two weeks…to write this commentary about Dornan’s interview with Elle about his experience with Dominance and submission and his derogatory comments about those that embrace this diverse lifestyle and sexual orientation. I had hoped he’d make a retraction or apologize to the community; plus, I had better things to do on my vacation then address dorks.

Those of you that know me and have read prior interviews with me for Fox News Latino where I’ve been asked to comment on popular national events such as the break-up between Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony and our infamous Anthony Wiener Twitter sex pictures know that I try to show a positive prospective to why people behave badly when sex and relationships are involved. However, Dorkan…I mean Dornan’s…discriminatory remarks to Elle magazine about the BDSM community has me taking the gloves off to give Spankings to Christian Grey actor, Jamie Dornan.

I find it appalling that an actor who’s being paid millions to represent a sexual lifestyle orientation would make such derogatory comments. Perhaps films should require their actors to sign contracts were the actors don’t discriminate against those who butter their bread. Or perhaps, Dorkan doesn’t know how to comport himself without cue cards and a camera. Then again, we can’t expect much from an underwear model, can you?

Dorkan…I mean Dornan’s comment to Elle, “I saw a dominant with one of his two submissives. I was like: ‘Come on guys, I know I’m not paying for this, but I am expecting a show.'”, illustrates his disrespect and lack of understanding of a sexual orientation, one he’s portraying. If he had respect, he’d understand that the Dominant and his submissives weren’t there to entertain him but were there to enjoy themselves and spending time with friends. Perhaps his recent rise to stardom has given him illusions of grandeur where he believes people are there to entertain him and he’s forgotten who the “actor” is and who gets paid to entertain.

As someone who embraces this sexual orientation and teaches individuals around the world about the truths associated with Dominance and submission, I take offense to Dorkan’s comments as they perpetuate a bias which leads to discrimination and bigotry. It makes me wonder if he would also go to a gay bar or shake hands with an African American and declare his need for, “…a long shower before touching either of them [wife and baby].”

I’m with Stephen Elliott from Rumpus, I invite anyone who believes that no man or woman should be discriminated against because of their sexual orientation (and yes, being Dominant and submissive is a sexual orientation) should boycott the movie, 50 Shades of Grey.  At the very least, show your support against discrimination by boycotting opening day. Be sure to visit my website and let us know you’ve done so.  Or write me and let me know of your support.

If Dornan or the producers of the movie, 50 Shades of Grey, wish to learn the truths about Dominance and submission, I invite them to attend BDSM Writers Con August 20-23 in New York City where they’ll discover that the BDSM community is made up of men and women who respect and care for each other….not to mention have the decency to show respect for those that follow other sexual orientation. Something the actor and producers have apparently failed to grasp. Maybe then their second movie in the trilogy won’t be plague with dry sex scenes and erroneous information about the D/s lifestyle. Dare I hope they actually get someone who knows what they’re doing on their movie set. Hey, I’m  available!

Spankings for Christian Grey…and I’ll be sure to wash my hands afterward!

Live with passion,

Dr. Charley Ferrer
Clinical Sexologist & BDSM Advocate
Founder of BDSM Writers Con